A popular anecdote between Swami Vivekananda and Mother/Holy Mother with regards to the holding of a knife is circulated online. Could you let us know if it's a fact or myth?
The original incident happened between Swami Turiyananda
(Brother Disciple of Vivekananda) and Sister Nivedita (Disciple of Vivekananda)
on a ship during their trip to America. This incident is falsely attributed
sometimes to Vivekananda and his Mother (or) Vivekananda and Sarada Devi (also
called Holy Mother). The original incident is as follows:
(During this trip) Swami Turiyananda thought he should
learn something of Western customs; so he asked Sister Nivedita to enlighten
him. She explained with an illustration. Picking up a knife, she held the sharp
edge in her hand and gave the handle to the Swami, saying, 'Swami, whenever you
give some thing to someone, always take the inconvenient and unpleasant side
yourself and give the convenient and pleasant side to the other.' This, she
implied, covered the range of polite behaviour in Western society.